Tangent Musings

vnielsart:

I posted this elsewhere yesterday for the solstice, but forgot to share it here! This is a Zbrush sculpt of Marta Kost’s Summer character. I really enjoyed making her. I sculpted, painted, and posed the character in Zbrush, and I created the hair, clothing, and flowers in Maya. I also retopologized the character in Maya, and lit and rendered the final in Zbrush.

from my art blog again

vnielsart:

My most recent 3D project. I tried this once before a long time ago (with Lego people and no concept of lighting or texturing that time), and I’m really happy with how this version turned out.

Modeled and textured in Maya, characters sculpted and foliage generated in Zbrush, and lit and rendered in Arnold. All of the above were done by me.

from my art blog

While in conversation with my father in law tonight, I tried to look up whether there are lobsters in the Pacific Ocean (delightfully, there are!). But the first suggested search when typing “are lobsters…” was “are lobsters immortal?” (tragically, they are not)

my husband’s family has this weird thanksgiving tradition where they go out in the field behind their house, tie an old car hood to the back of a working car, and ride on it while being dragged through the field by the car. it’s actually surprisingly fun, even more so if we actually have snow on thanksgiving. even so, I gently tease my husband about just how very hickish the practice is.

and I was contemplating this today, when I suddenly remembered that I literally ripped my wedding dress at our reception while dancing to Cotton-Eyed Joe. so maybe we are made for each other.

s2 of shadow and bone really said “screw bury your gays, they are now the ONLY ones to get happy endings”

bananonbinary:

eroticcannibal:

drtanner:

talestobetold:

cryptcatz:

question: do ppl ACTUALLY say things they don’t mean when they’re angry? or is that just an excuse after letting something true slip? i wouldn’t ever say something i don’t mean in anger, so the concept confuses me.

but something was said to me that is bothering me, though apparently was said in an argument and wasn’t meant. but i don’t rlly believe it wasn’t like, deep down true thoughts/feelings??? anyone have any insight? anyone say things they don’t mean in anger?

To my understanding (also autistic lol), there’s two things people mean when they say this, whether they know it:

1. “I said something I didn’t mean to say and I’m sorry I said it.” There are lots of things people leave unsaid because they know it’s unfair, irrational, or unnecessarily hurtful. Also lots of things that are just hurtful, so it’s a mixed bag

2. “I made a dumb leap of logic because my angry brain wasn’t working like my calmed brain.” This can apply to projection (“Why are you mad at me?”), paranoia (“I just know you’re about to break up with me.”), jumping to conclusions (“Oh, you just want to run off to that friend of yours, don’t you?”), etc etc

I think people usually mean the former but the latter definitely exists. Hope this helps

I’m not autistic but I have been in plenty of very angry arguments and so I can tell you that there is a Secret Third Thing™, which is “I said something not because I actually believe it’s true but because I was angry and wanted to hurt you.”

You’d be surprised at how often that one happens.

Theres also “i said something that was true *in the moment*, but this does not reflect how I feel 99% of the time”. Think kids screaming that they hate you before storming off.

i’ve definitely done the “i wanted to make you just as upset as i feel so i said something intentionally hurtful” (altho i always regret it instantly, it’s absolutely never been worth it)

there’s also a secret other thing (that i’m not actually sure if allistics experience, but i think is probably common with neurodivergent people), where i said something that just straight-up wasn’t what i intended to say in my brain, because my words got jumbled on the way to my mouth and the end result was FAR meaner than intended. this is the “i meant to say ‘no problem’ and 'you’re welcome’ and ended up saying 'you’re a problem’” phenomenon, except its a lot less funny when it happens in a really emotionally charged moment.

As to that last point, my husband and I have a code to stop hurt feelings from misspeaking. Whenever we have something to say that we want to be taken in good faith but the way it’s coming out of our brains sounds really bad or offensive, we just preface it with “I need you to suspend all judgment here.” Then the other person knows in advance to not take it how it sounds, and can respond by helping come up with better phrasing and check with the first person if that’s what they really meant. Granted this can be harder to do when emotions are running high, but just having it as a habit has really saved us from hurt feelings due to miscommunication.

Naming all the tiny pieces in my 3D model is going to be the death of me

As part of this model the character has a giant steam-punk-esque hammer, and I’m naming pieces and I’m naming groups that I organize the pieces into. I have the hammer head, the handle base (right at the bottom) and…. the “handle shaft.” I literally can’t think of a better name for it. And then there are a bunch of decorative rings around this hammer, so I am now left with naming these pieces “shaft rings.” It’s technically accurate, but I would so love some way to avoid a cock ring innuendo here.

Has anyone else had a sudden super influx of porn bot followers? Like I used to get some from time to time, but over just this past month I have gotten 79 new followers, and while I haven’t made the time to go through them all I’m willing to bet nearly all of them are porn blogs. Is this something to do with the Twitter migration?

My husband’s view on Skyler White for 22 and a half episodes:

My husband on that one scene in IFT: what the fuck. whaT THE FUCK. WHAT the FUCK

Happy New Year!

So in the past I haven’t always been super great/consistent with certain hygienic practices, which I realize some people might think is gross but I had trouble fixing my habits. So two years ago, New Years came around and I made all my goals and all, but I decided that I would make one specific goal non-negotiable for the year. It was a non-time-consuming goal, and I knew if I just focused on this one, I had a good chance of building a real habit.

Well I’m pleased to say that I have flossed my teeth (in addition to brushing,but that was already handled pretty well) every night for two years! And my 2022 goal was showering every night, which I successfully completed for the year. Both of these things are finally fully ingrained habits that I don’t even have to think about anymore.

So this year I’m doing the big one everyone talks about: I’m going to exercise and hopefully lose this extra weight I’ve been carrying around. The non-negotiable is at least 10 minutes a day, 6 days a week. I would like to do longer than that, but I figure the 10 minute minimum will likely make me keep my goal easier by being less of a time commitment. If the whole day passes by and I haven’t gotten to it, I can just hop on the stationary bike for 10 minutes before my shower, and it won’t interfere with my sleep too much.

So here’s hoping I can build this next habit this year! I’ll check in again in 365 days!